tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post1483907359574928795..comments2023-10-07T07:26:20.469-07:00Comments on Flux Capacitor: Flux De-CapitatedMaggie Mayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-57378453630419216722011-08-21T16:48:07.901-07:002011-08-21T16:48:07.901-07:00Oh, and I'm a teacher, too, so yeah.Oh, and I'm a teacher, too, so yeah.Mwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00954216492730746581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-56006119710781938772011-08-21T16:47:05.865-07:002011-08-21T16:47:05.865-07:00OH MY GOD WOMAN YES!
I am starting to finally dar...OH MY GOD WOMAN YES!<br /><br />I am starting to finally dare to try to write something of my own - to publish - and that is precisely my problem. Everything I want to write is so personal and real and painful - even if I dress it up as fiction no one will be fooled - I worry about that all the time. And it seems somehow that it's less bad for Updike because men are so badass when they have dirty sex thoughts, but women are sluts when they do. I am having the worst trouble resolving all these things.<br /><br />Another thing with me is that I want to write about the bad bits of wifehood, and what will Babes think if I write about lusting after other men? I don't want to lose my husband by writing about my inner demons.<br /><br />This post is exactly why I want to hide in bed right now. xMwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00954216492730746581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-60861567432196568712011-08-21T12:00:22.771-07:002011-08-21T12:00:22.771-07:00Yes, I know exactly where you are coming from. The...Yes, I know exactly where you are coming from. The difference is that my family would never read the kinds of things I write because they are to "mature". (So they say..)<br />It's been a long time since I've been able to read blogs, but now that I do you are right back there on my "fav" list.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10988065861691645835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-69263425279723196572011-08-20T22:42:21.251-07:002011-08-20T22:42:21.251-07:00http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OfNmNNkwZmwhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OfNmNNkwZmwAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-38858794584088401852011-08-20T15:10:44.543-07:002011-08-20T15:10:44.543-07:00Just started a new blog for exactly this purpose. ...Just started a new blog for exactly this purpose. http://declutteredmind.blogspot.com/<br /><br />xVashtihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15561661179391574738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-14382210640092177002011-08-20T14:55:51.628-07:002011-08-20T14:55:51.628-07:00I so admire you for being so honest on your blog. ...I so admire you for being so honest on your blog. All of what I write is censored and watered down because I'm terrified my family will find it and be offended. And there are too many things I feel like I just can't talk about because even though it's my story to tell, it usually involves other people who don't want it told for all of the internet to see. <br /><br />It's largely why my songwriting has sucked too - I get too nervous what people will think and censor it. To the point where I don't even tell people anymore that I want to be a rock star when I grow up.<br /><br />Fuck.Allison the Meephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13187106256908781163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-66169283072925056322011-08-20T14:30:25.330-07:002011-08-20T14:30:25.330-07:00Maggie, I think that every successful person that ...Maggie, I think that every successful person that has a voice has faced this dilemma. I think of Conan O'Brien. His jokes are definitely not PG--as in I wouldn't let my 5 year old listen to him--but if he filtered what he said--his comedy would stink. And he's probably LESS funny because he has to stay within network guidelines.<br />There are always conflicts with truth and GOOD art. The best stuff is authentic. The best stuff risks exposure because it's a little peek into our souls, I guess. That goes for writers and artists and comedians and actors. And I bet the people that read your blog--even the ones who read it because "ohmygosh can you believe what she wrote?" realize very shortly after following that they are reading the words of an amazing WRITER. For free. No ebook charge. <br />Love you, Maggie May. Keep on being you. That's what we all love.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04953764061091454844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-80111953522553028082011-08-20T11:14:38.571-07:002011-08-20T11:14:38.571-07:00Silver- there is so much that I put into fiction, ...Silver- there is so much that I put into fiction, and I totally know what you mean...Mailer said that if you use up all your real life in 'exact replica' stories, you will lose your writing mojo (i'm completely and miserably paraphrasing here)<br /><br />Hayley- Can you imagine THAT conversation!!??<br /><br />Tania- that inspires me. THank you!<br /><br />Sarah- thank you for that. I loved reading your 'blog story'. I would be so stoked to find that a teacher of mine wrote a blog!<br /><br />Ms Moon- I love you because you read Updike, had that thought and are willing to say it out loud, and all the things that means to me. XOXOXO<br /><br />Julocha- Thank you. That means a lot to me. It helps me be forward.<br /><br />SJ- I didn't know that about FB and you! I'm so not careful..sigh..good and bad<br /><br />Marion- yes! that's my quote for this blog, on top of the image on the left hand side! it's my guide.<br /><br />Angella- I think I know the exact post you mean. I think my kids would be the same way! AND I think you are a really gifted writer.<br /><br />Janel- Thank you! Rah rah!<br /><br />Steam Me Up- I've thought about you, and how sometimes you must just take like, the deepest breath ever and push POST.<br /><br />Only a Girl- Having your own space...crucial.<br /><br />Magpie- Tell me about it!!!<br /><br />Still Life- and what I love about you is your honest emotion. xo<br /><br />Krista- I agree. What anyone started blogging for, or gets out of it, is very different. xo<br /><br />Vashti- pressure! I don't know! :)))\<br /><br />Alex- Sometimes just hearing from people that read, or get it, is what I need. THank you.<br /><br />Leslie- Thank you for that. You've put a lot of thought into it so I can see you've definitely been in this place of thought!! And if you struggle and can't bring yourself to write about sex, that's just fine. Each blog serves it's own, unique purpose to the blogger and to the readers.<br /><br />The secret is knowing your own self and being true to that. That's what I do here, and sometimes it just is REALLY HARD.<br /><br />Jeanne- Gulp. What did you say to her?<br /><br />Mary- Oh my God, big hug to you lady!!!<br /><br />Petit- No, I have to be here...it's what I want, it's hard to do!<br /><br />Laura- Thank you so much. That means a lot to me, really.<br /><br />Hannah- Experimenting with what to write is important, I think. Keeps it fresh.<br /><br />Loredanna- Yes. and Hell Yes!!!<br /><br />T.Clear- Nail, meet head.<br /><br />Yolanda my dearling, you always know.xoMaggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-6385441191540553132011-08-20T03:57:32.353-07:002011-08-20T03:57:32.353-07:00yes, i know that it is like reading your journals....yes, i know that it is like reading your journals... and everybody can read them. so yucky! but you are a writer, your talent needs expression... and about sex, who cares? you have your right to write about everything, because everything is writable, gold in your hands!! <br />fuck them. god!<br />i love you, maggie!!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-1306155235914068052011-08-19T21:52:44.510-07:002011-08-19T21:52:44.510-07:00Updike, Bellow and Didion didn't have The Inte...Updike, Bellow and Didion didn't have The Internet. Big difference.<br /><br />We are so immediately connected to anyone who wants to be connected to us -- it's a little crazy out here. Don't know what the answer is.<br /><br />It helps -- and I mean this when I say it, although it sounds very macabre -- it helps when some of those people who would want to censor us are no longer are alive. It's incredibly freeing.T. https://www.blogger.com/profile/16509409207991963533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-46246186337569237202011-08-19T19:57:42.384-07:002011-08-19T19:57:42.384-07:00Oh BOY do I get what you're saying! It's ...Oh BOY do I get what you're saying! It's so VERY frustrating to feel that you have to censor yourself. Put other names to the real people in your stories. Add a "spin" to the story so it doesn't entirely sound like the EXACT one you're living so "no one gets hurt, offended, upset or annoyed" but then guess who's left holding the shit bag? US! <br /><br />This is what's stopped me from moving on with my writing and I just seriously need to stop. i need to stop worrying about everyone else's feelings because it's not going to help me in any way whatsoever. Yea, some people are going to be hurt but we write because it's our passion and if you're a part of my story you should be happy, even if I just made you out to be the biggest asshole ever!! At least that's how i see it.<br /><br />It's time we stopped censoring, no matter who's reading. If you're offended do what you're supposed to do, put the book down, log out of the site, but don't come knocking on my door or start harassing my phone because I'll then just continue to put you into my stories!<br /><br />Keep on writing as raw as you already do because it's only through truth and honesty that our best work comes forth.Loredanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10281756601492887263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-53077728690450974522011-08-19T17:23:42.438-07:002011-08-19T17:23:42.438-07:00Hi Maggie,
Some people I know in real life know t...Hi Maggie,<br /><br />Some people I know in real life know that I blog, but most don't know my blog URL. Most of the friends who know me through my blog, are friends that I have met online, and only, after I've known them for a long time, have I gotten to know them on a more personal level and shared my real name, and identifying details about my life. <br /><br />I use a pseudonym, my writer's name, on my blog, so that I won't have to censor. My childhood family does not know my pseudonym, and I've asked my husband and son not to read my blog. As far as I know, I'm 99.9% sure that they do not; which has its disadantages, as well, because I often feel that my online friends know my thoughts and my feelings and have access to my ideas and my writing talent, more than my own family. <br /><br />I do censor myself, anyway, and I often find when I post something way personal, I have to pull back, thank my readers for their comments and support, and delete the post; since my blog's primary purpose is to both promote my writing and to communicate with other creative people.<br /><br />I have always admired your bravery in the posts that you write; and I've felt scared for you when you share so much. You know how much I value your writing, and I am waiting for the day when I know your talent will be recognized and published- your poetry, your personal essays and your fiction. <br /><br />I don't have any answers for you. I struggle with what to say myself. I have used an author name, in part, because I am a Youth Services librarian, but the fiction I write is for adults. I also worry about the connection someone may make between my profession and the nature of my writing, which, of course, includes adult issues, because that is life.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12588164536314320479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-72693015200397634642011-08-19T17:01:39.274-07:002011-08-19T17:01:39.274-07:00I have this same problem. I think it really stems ...I have this same problem. I think it really stems from the fact that I have little direction in my blog and I write whatever I want. I often find myself not writing anything at all because the people who read my blog are family and friends. I started out writing with the intention of experimenting with different literary devices but... that hasn't seemed to work out well for me.Hannah Pratthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03241656929267868673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-62862429000457872612011-08-19T16:53:24.544-07:002011-08-19T16:53:24.544-07:00I am not really a "writer". I mean I wo...I am not really a "writer". I mean I wouldn't put myself in the same class as you of course. BUT I do have to censor what I talk about. There is so much I would like to put out there, but I don't. My whole family reads my blog, along with so many of our friends. I am pretty sure several of my co-workers do as well. I have been tempted to start an anonymous blog, just so I could spill out everything on my mind. It sure would be different then my current one! I just don't see much fun in being anonymous though. <br /><br />I absolutely love and adore your writing. It moves people, including me and I hope that you can always find a way to soldier on and no that what you are doing is important!Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14856517158944872393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-27178010573869177342011-08-19T16:05:41.828-07:002011-08-19T16:05:41.828-07:00Sigh. This is a conundrum.
I do not have this p...Sigh. This is a conundrum. <br /><br />I do not have this problem because I am not a writer and I do not have a job and I do not have a teenager... I am simply a person who has a bunch to say, but even I feel stymied at times about certain subjects or issues I feel passionately about, but I know are very controversial or whatever. <br /><br />Maybe you could go to some chat rooms or something and find out what others are doing about this... you can't possibly be the only one..?<br /><br />Good luck, I mean it!<br />xoPetit fleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02626110471501778855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-46692456718203796752011-08-19T15:55:37.070-07:002011-08-19T15:55:37.070-07:00Like others I have a private blog with invited rea...Like others I have a private blog with invited readers that I go to when things are not good. <br /><br />I go there less and less but take comfort in knowing that I can write my heart out there if need be.<br /><br />Trouble is that it has a limit of 100 invitees and if you ever went down that road you would need 1000. All of us would want to come!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08578720378832806483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-38172351591909257402011-08-19T14:16:13.615-07:002011-08-19T14:16:13.615-07:00I started my blog with the intent that I'd tel...I started my blog with the intent that I'd tell the world about it, so there were always places I didn't plan to go.<br /><br />And then last week I learned that my 9-year-old granddaughter has been hanging around.<br /><br />The Raisin Chronicles is not for kids.Jeanne Estridgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13096521122802823385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-88818619655332287532011-08-19T11:57:54.136-07:002011-08-19T11:57:54.136-07:00On my blog my writing is very much me thinking out...On my blog my writing is very much me thinking out loud. I don't often make attempts to be arty with it, although I know I express myself concisely. I have always reserved my "good" writing for my poetry and it took me a long time to see blogging as an art form. I haven't been happy with my blog for a long time because I know the writing could be better - and that's what it's about, right? The writing?<br /><br />I have a very small readership and it makes me feel weird when I find out (some) people I know IRL are reading. For instance, my dad's family, who I don't really have a relationship with. They didn't seem to want to have much to do with me growing up but now they're reading my blog? It's weird. My dad is very sick and when I have blogged about it, I've heard about it from members of his family. They feel the need to "correct" a few things that I've said. To me, you can't "correct" feelings. They are what they are.<br /><br />So here are some ideas that I've come up with for my own situation. Maybe one of them will sound good to you, too. :)<br /><br />1) Look into making certain posts private or password-protected. Then allow only certain people to see them.<br /><br />2) Make your blog private. (Although that's not much fun for me, since I LOVE your blog and I would more than likely not be allowed to view it. ;)<br /><br />3) Start an anonymous blog, without your name attached to it. Write all the things that you can't write here.<br /><br />4) Write it in your journal. <br /><br />I guess what I've come to feel about writing on the internet is that not everything has to be put out there. I admire people who do it, but it's not for me. I have written about some terribly traumatic things that have happened in my life, yet I can't bring myself to discuss my and my husband's sex life (for example).<br /><br />Good luck, I know it's a difficult thing.Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06210056029582203814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-88715393167323675532011-08-19T11:31:35.086-07:002011-08-19T11:31:35.086-07:00I don't blog, I just comment on others' bl...I don't blog, I just comment on others' blogs. Need I say more?<br /><br />Sorry you're dealing with this, though I have to admit, not surprised, which -- well, see above. This may be a part of the explanation for why I'm not John Updike though not -- let's be clear -- a big part, that would be more a talent/capability kind of angle.Alexicographerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06029216139568740202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-22616766204668460832011-08-19T10:32:15.325-07:002011-08-19T10:32:15.325-07:00I wrote a post about a month ago in my note book. ...I wrote a post about a month ago in my note book. I have yet to post it for this very reason. I feel that I need to but Im being a chicken because I know that so many people read my blog and Im scares about what they would think if I did post it. What do you think? Should I just do it and say Efff them all??!!!Vashtihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13414526295669048539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-53282950102146691442011-08-19T09:37:06.731-07:002011-08-19T09:37:06.731-07:00there is a lot i don't write. a lot.
good or ...there is a lot i don't write. a lot. <br />good or bad, it's the way i do it because too many people i actually know read my stuff. so i can't be that uncensored. at least not without repercussions.<br />but, for me, this works. it's an exercise in metaphors. i work on total honesty between the syllables. without getting myself or anyone in trouble.<br />i think the answer is different for everyone, though.kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07862447137460152226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-69000290063388360312011-08-19T08:41:18.348-07:002011-08-19T08:41:18.348-07:00What I love about your blog is your honesty and tr...What I love about your blog is your honesty and truth and heart.Still Life With Coffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08618084652041659692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-22929942766295791322011-08-19T08:33:50.141-07:002011-08-19T08:33:50.141-07:00oh, totally. where shall i begin? (insert eyeroll....oh, totally. where shall i begin? (insert eyeroll...)Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-13601573276131740042011-08-19T08:15:00.011-07:002011-08-19T08:15:00.011-07:00This is precisely why I actually have two blogs - ...This is precisely why I actually have two blogs - one that is appropriate for my family to read (the one you occasionally read) and a new one I just started last night that hopefully they will never know about. I am keeping it as anonymous as possible so that I can say what I want, when I want.Only A Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00025502493851535634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-44930735562014304062011-08-19T08:05:27.285-07:002011-08-19T08:05:27.285-07:00Ugh. I know the feeling. And yes, I have a big bub...Ugh. I know the feeling. And yes, I have a big bubble. Sometimes I write it and and I just don't post it, because if I'm writing for me (and I like to think I am) what's the difference. When I do post, it's a challenge sometimes to create a post from a limited number of topics that incorporate a very limited number of people. (Hence, an inordinate amount of stories involving just me and farts.) <br /><br />I was going to suggest password protecting the sensitive posts, if that might help free you up, but maybe that's just a pain in the ass that might make you feel resentful in the end. I love what you write here, and it makes me sad about your son's friends reading and giving him a hard time. Mind your own beeswax, young'uns! Gheesh!Steam Me Up, Kidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06977888919979444175noreply@blogger.com