tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post446850002081961327..comments2023-10-07T07:26:20.469-07:00Comments on Flux Capacitor: oh the fun we will haveMaggie Mayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-69653608193371837472010-07-15T21:54:54.057-07:002010-07-15T21:54:54.057-07:00;);)Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-68266567947206640292010-07-14T00:10:17.631-07:002010-07-14T00:10:17.631-07:00Crack that whip, momma.Crack that whip, momma.Shanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09332633230214817022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-87453213527653680772010-07-13T06:15:09.885-07:002010-07-13T06:15:09.885-07:00I get so jealous... (Tegan and Sara said it, I jus...I get so jealous... (Tegan and Sara said it, I just happen to agree). love this Mag.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-4452211407692610502010-07-12T13:24:36.932-07:002010-07-12T13:24:36.932-07:00I love that you have family night, whether they li...I love that you have family night, whether they like it or not. ;) I agree, in the long run, everyone will be better for it. I endured many a grueling night as a teenager with my family, and now I wish I had appreciated them more. But the important thing is that they existed at all. I feel lucky for that.Johannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12374061632056967446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-71509414963792874242010-07-12T09:32:22.622-07:002010-07-12T09:32:22.622-07:00Nothing EVER turns out like you plan, goddammit.
...Nothing EVER turns out like you plan, goddammit.<br /><br />Love you!Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-82549530112116682232010-07-12T04:50:47.762-07:002010-07-12T04:50:47.762-07:00Maggie,
I'll be honest and say that whenever I...Maggie,<br />I'll be honest and say that whenever I try to force stuff it never works.<br />And because of the kids schedules and work we never have , well a schedule.<br />But as we are slowly over bonding and rubbing each other the wrong way here as summer continues, there are moments of grace and pure joy that help me believe in my core , through the tears and rants and doubt, that everything is as beautiful as it it. Rising from the broken even. <br />Trust yourself. As difficult as that may seem. <br />My oldest daughter told me the other day that one of the things she loves about me the best is that she can trust me with her feelings. Good or bad. <br />That's unconditional love.<br />The stuff I always dreamed of.<br /><br />okay, now I'm in tears.<br />love to you in all of this.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15924061349390319473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-26255095934171372312010-07-11T21:16:56.151-07:002010-07-11T21:16:56.151-07:00My hubby always says "it's hard to manufa...My hubby always says "it's hard to manufacture a good time". (if not impossible) But it's in the trying, right? <br /><br />You and you family sound real and loving and fabulous.mosey (kim)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14990626697257089908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-91865087646519012672010-07-11T15:41:36.625-07:002010-07-11T15:41:36.625-07:00They force you to say those things. You don't ...They force you to say those things. You don't want to, but they make you. (And I second what Ellen said -- despite all the complaining, they'll later remember these as the good times.)Jeanne Estridgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13096521122802823385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-38082215574085623522010-07-11T14:20:34.806-07:002010-07-11T14:20:34.806-07:00Damn dog hair. I know how you feel. Kids being shi...Damn dog hair. I know how you feel. Kids being shitty. Reckon they've got better ideas about parenting, working, running a household, maintaing a relationship, and on and on. I'm plying their kids with sugar and giving them scary DVDs - and damn it, I'm feeding their dog laxatives. That should do it.Kate Moorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11731006032499344619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-64879270798021886132010-07-11T11:39:56.123-07:002010-07-11T11:39:56.123-07:00Well, you have inspired me to start family night o...Well, you have inspired me to start family night over here, and I'm not put off by this in the slightest. If it's always easy, it's probably not worth doing, right?Mwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00954216492730746581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-8017535630074031342010-07-11T04:03:35.046-07:002010-07-11T04:03:35.046-07:00A good friend, a psychotherapist, once told me, wh...A good friend, a psychotherapist, once told me, when I complained of something similar to what you describe here with my family of six, whenever his clan had a family meeting it was impossible to keep all five in the room at once. Someone, at least one always huffed off. <br /><br />And so it was with us, until the girls grew up and even now we still have the odd ruckus. <br /><br />Have you read Ann Tyler's 'Dinner at the Homesick Restaurant'? She describes it all so beautifully.<br /><br />Good to hear you're sounding well trhough all the conflict.Elisabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04015624747225433940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-47020331334311870142010-07-10T18:04:10.161-07:002010-07-10T18:04:10.161-07:00I wish that you were with me at the movie today, t...I wish that you were with me at the movie today, too. Then we could have run away together, maybe, at least for a day or so.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-81090323601439457782010-07-10T16:39:18.718-07:002010-07-10T16:39:18.718-07:00I... ah! (Reaching) I just... want to say...ack! (...I... ah! (Reaching) I just... want to say...ack! (Reaching for the the right words! But somebody already wrote them!) Ms Moon wrote them. "You're doing it right."Draxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10127086612056086054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-52294306930394169722010-07-10T15:45:47.954-07:002010-07-10T15:45:47.954-07:00Aw man. I could not have asked for better replies....Aw man. I could not have asked for better replies. You guys are awesome and thank you. Every time I get these kind of personal responses I feel encouraged and less alone in the world. XO<br /><br />Claire- I truly love your poem- it's so very perfect and well written. Thank you!Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-22499820916355339182010-07-10T15:21:31.642-07:002010-07-10T15:21:31.642-07:00The important thing is that you did it. I applaud...The important thing is that you did it. I applaud your tenacity. I do my crying in the shower every day. It was beginning to drive my husband crazy and we don't need two insane members of this cathouse. (My tears are due to a lack of estrogen---MENopause issue, among others.) Tears are cleansing. I like this quote by Isak Dinesen: "The cure for anything is salt water - sweat, tears, or the sea." Hang in there. Blessings!Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14786883679294446945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-86522086629560292312010-07-10T15:21:31.643-07:002010-07-10T15:21:31.643-07:00Dear Maggie,
I just want to let you know that h...Dear Maggie,<br /> I just want to let you know that having had teens and trying, trying to have those family times seems so hard....down the road of life they will remember them. In odd, confusing ways they will bring them up and all will be well years from now when they are in their twenties. It doesn't feel like that could ever happen but it will.<br /> Though I still have a teen at home who can say some sarcastic (he thinks funny) stuff...I now can wince at first and then smile..because I will do what I can to keep our family priority one...yes I will.<br /> Be kind to yourself...you are hormone driven with your pregnancy! So much going on with your body, mind and mix that with kids/teens...yikes! Be glad Lola is young and not PMSing....I had that with 2 of my daughters while pregnant with my son. Also...I think your family seeing your emotions of love is not bad...you are human and have needs...ask for a hug, a kiss...ask them if you can give them one...a big hug is such a great boost in feeling their care to you.Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912709342270151365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-41418653192515545302010-07-10T14:54:02.305-07:002010-07-10T14:54:02.305-07:00Ouch. Sorry.Ouch. Sorry.Brigindohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05499279435958916161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-37030714613454575712010-07-10T13:39:08.926-07:002010-07-10T13:39:08.926-07:00My word verification was curingl.....which I think...My word verification was curingl.....which I think is a message that means God is curing Joeys "L"eg.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07930274958410589309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-68375507618514241052010-07-10T13:39:08.927-07:002010-07-10T13:39:08.927-07:00I am so not looking forward to when the kids have ...I am so not looking forward to when the kids have a stronger opinion of what's fun and cool and what's unjust and unappealing. Right now, they are content to go out to eat with us at various restaurants, and walk around the mall not buying a thing at all....just for the sheer enjoyment of getting out of the house is fun...Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07930274958410589309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-24583340058433687902010-07-10T13:18:05.143-07:002010-07-10T13:18:05.143-07:00Oh honey. You're doing it right. I was watchin...Oh honey. You're doing it right. I was watching some old movie- oh yeah- "David Copperfield" a few days ago and I thought maybe your family would like it for Family Night. Or maybe not. It was the REALLY old one with WC Fields in it. At least the kids could be exposed to how good they have it compared to poor little Davie.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-3413012815535787772010-07-10T12:24:21.774-07:002010-07-10T12:24:21.774-07:00TIGHT-LIPPED TABLE
There’s nothing predictable
ab...TIGHT-LIPPED TABLE<br /><br />There’s nothing predictable<br />about mealtimes these days<br />our kitchen table is surprising<br />as rainwater, dependent<br />on the local air for colour. <br /><br />Yesterday, it was a loud square<br />lake, five figures and a high blue sky<br />whooping; no one stuck around the edges. <br />We cart-wheeled through air <br />and water, sprinkled red and yellow language <br />across the white of night-cold milk<br />and leftover potato salad. <br /><br />There are times around the same table <br />when simplest conversation is a metal clod<br />clamped by its weight to a pond-bottom<br />refusing to dislodge, obstinate as an old tooth.<br /><br />And once in while, the kitchen barometer<br />sends out a red alert. We are to expect<br />thorns and static in the air, be prepared<br />for the growl of thunder, lightning lurking<br />below the shade of the smooth blue cloth.<br /><br />When the crash comes, we grab <br />our shoes, press our feet <br />into the mock safety net<br />of rubber soles. Cumulus clouds lean <br />over the table. Their smug shadows<br />dent our flat brown puddle.<br /><br /><br /><br />Some nights we drift around the table<br />a loose reef-knot, a little at sea. But<br />when warmer weather comes, we know the trick<br />of how to haul fish from each others’ mouths.<br /><br />In case of a storm, we keep <br />a lifeboat, oars and an anchor <br />in the third drawer down.Claire Beynonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00005365677016923903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-11072430728605815652010-07-10T12:24:21.775-07:002010-07-10T12:24:21.775-07:00Dear Maggie - I noticed your 'I' instead o...Dear Maggie - I noticed your 'I' instead of 'it' (having read Scott's latest entry en-route to you) and thought "ah yes, how just and right and how 'just right'"... <br /><br />I can so identify with your Family Night. Remarkably, my three children are in their twenties now but I can return to the emotion of those times in an instant and know exactly how you feel. I hope you won't mind my sending you a poem I wrote after what felt like 'yet another' devastating and un-called for drama that - as yours does - ends with a note of determination and hope! <br /><br />Blessings, Claire xClaire Beynonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00005365677016923903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-34435336323977005902010-07-10T12:12:52.193-07:002010-07-10T12:12:52.193-07:00I love you and your wonderful, loving, real family...I love you and your wonderful, loving, real family, MM. XO.anymommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-8021969245435426642010-07-10T11:29:51.612-07:002010-07-10T11:29:51.612-07:00i accidentally wrote, after the Dishwasher link- &...i accidentally wrote, after the Dishwasher link- ' I served it's purpose' instead it 'it' but i'm leaving it that way for it's poetic justiceMaggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.com