tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post7309765492426849583..comments2023-10-07T07:26:20.469-07:00Comments on Flux Capacitor: small devotionsMaggie Mayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-11431242125991603412009-11-14T13:12:03.035-08:002009-11-14T13:12:03.035-08:00Great chapters in this book about raising boys: Br...Great chapters in this book about raising boys: Broken Open: How difficult Times can help us grow.<br />Your writing is wonderful, your insight and strength. I so admire parents, in every stage.Bethanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03510823788662848522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-57726532087951995092009-11-11T07:25:32.381-08:002009-11-11T07:25:32.381-08:00My son is four and I have often wondered about the...My son is four and I have often wondered about the teenage years ahead, which I have assumed to be much like toddlerhood with less control on the part of the parent (because you can't carry a teenager to their room). It's his job to push, your to stay firm. It sounds difficult for all involved, but it will pass. And you write about it with grace and beauty and deep love.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338447025378001757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-71704091395909688352009-11-10T13:48:45.842-08:002009-11-10T13:48:45.842-08:00OK, am at work, had to use a Kleenex on this post....OK, am at work, had to use a Kleenex on this post. Alright, I'm back now.<br />"This is where marriage steps in and absorbs impact." I love that line. My oldest son is 13 and I am thankful that I have a husband (who was once 15 and had lots of brothers and firm parents) to absorb with me. My son and I have an emotional connection. I thank you for the reminder to tell him he is loved lots.Michele Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17030846420862437581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-23755786442013038542009-11-09T20:14:35.744-08:002009-11-09T20:14:35.744-08:00You know. You sound like you're on top of it k...You know. You sound like you're on top of it kiddo. At 35 I've done three - one is 22, one is 20 and one is 18. The 18-year-old near killed us, near killed the relationship. We also have a 15-year-old and I'm not sure what's to come. He's always been the gentle one. His sisters can be violent, especially the 18-year-old. I am coiled though. Ready Lara Croft style. Three down, one to go. I've got me a kit bag of parental shit and some of it might be good and some of it might be just that, shit. We'll just do what we do though and get through it. So will you.Kate Moorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11731006032499344619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-39055953905789755052009-11-09T20:06:25.062-08:002009-11-09T20:06:25.062-08:00Awe darlin,
I have a neighbor with a teenage daug...Awe darlin,<br /><br />I have a neighbor with a teenage daughter and we joke about the toddler/teen similarities. You are spot on in every way. And so is Mr. Curry. His words are wise ... and remember, he was a 15 year old boy once, so he knows how it works!<br /><br />You are doing great. Hang in there. <br />Peace,<br />pfPetit fleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02626110471501778855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-50705634791515864662009-11-09T19:13:05.565-08:002009-11-09T19:13:05.565-08:00this post made me tear up.
you two have an obvio...this post made me tear up. <br /><br />you two have an obvious respect for him and his journey. <br /><br />although I am not a parent myself, my mom gave me that. I was quite a hand full at 15, (she says I aged her 10 years). But now, at thirty, i thank her almost every day for struggling with me, never letting me go, but letting me BE.Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02506501649953006361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-6645435337188978942009-11-09T17:06:47.313-08:002009-11-09T17:06:47.313-08:00Oh. So hard. My son is now 21 (21! yikes!) and I r...Oh. So hard. My son is now 21 (21! yikes!) and I remember these struggles so vividly. Sending calming thoughts your way.Shanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09332633230214817022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-81140470015939035462009-11-09T15:49:11.708-08:002009-11-09T15:49:11.708-08:00My youngest son is 19. I remember what you're ...My youngest son is 19. I remember what you're going through. Love IS the answer. You'll get through this. :)Elizabeth Bradleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03150221675618198674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-29108601204302902542009-11-09T14:23:30.922-08:002009-11-09T14:23:30.922-08:00It seems that, although you are dealing with the s...It seems that, although you are dealing with the struggles and challenges of raising kids, you also have an amazing partner who is 100% supportive and loving.<br /><br />You are so lucky, and so blessed, and I know that you know this. I just let myself wash in it because up until recently, I never wanted to have kids...because I thought men were incapable of doing exactly what your Mr. Curry does.<br /><br />Thank god we both met men who are not boys, eh?Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07477498671080132176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-34518947159750835452009-11-09T12:08:23.133-08:002009-11-09T12:08:23.133-08:00Oh I remember 15 - (from a girls perspective) I th...Oh I remember 15 - (from a girls perspective) I thought I could rule the world but I just wasn't old enough for anyone to take any notice of me! Deep down he will be grateful to have such supportive parents - I looked at madam the other day (in the midst of a three year old tantrum) and actually wondered if it was now or teenagehood that will be harder (on all of us). Beautiful words as always xKatyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02474012820133805137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-17994819326869485432009-11-09T11:52:48.386-08:002009-11-09T11:52:48.386-08:00UGGHH! FIFTEEN! That's a tough tough age. I ...UGGHH! FIFTEEN! That's a tough tough age. I was staggered by the ferocity of my teenagers anger at times and it scared me to death. But here I am two years past fifteen and our relationship seems to be smoothing out. The I Love you's are more frequent and with less eyerolling. The hugs seem to be two way instead of my holding on for dear life and her pulling away. We still have our moments and they are wicked wicked moments but as they say "This too shall pass."<br />Oh and Mr. Currey. What a prince among men! Hang in there. Dakota loves you as unconditionally as you love him.PalagiGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15960714746263603710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-64564680580338650932009-11-09T11:35:18.099-08:002009-11-09T11:35:18.099-08:00Sometimes when I want to make myself feel better a...Sometimes when I want to make myself feel better about being childless not by choice I read about parent's struggles with teenagers. But you, brilliant you, make even adolescent ennui seem like poetry. Keep up the good dancing with Mr. Curry.<br />xoxoLa Belette Rougehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05686717070120116918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-11160651282063934202009-11-09T11:30:55.232-08:002009-11-09T11:30:55.232-08:00That Mr Curry of yours sure knows what to say. I&#...That Mr Curry of yours sure knows what to say. I'm dreading the teenage years. At least the toddlers you don't have to let out of the house after a tantrum. xMwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00954216492730746581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-19697555456558003612009-11-09T10:38:55.697-08:002009-11-09T10:38:55.697-08:00This is a love story, beautifully written. Thank y...This is a love story, beautifully written. Thank you for sharing.Nancy Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04313721217543578257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-19670616596094715272009-11-09T09:22:04.182-08:002009-11-09T09:22:04.182-08:00Hey Maggie, I am writing with a request. You have ...Hey Maggie, I am writing with a request. You have so many beautiful photos on your site, but they never have any credit. Wondering if you could include the aritsts' names on your posts? :) Thanks!YES Gallery + Studiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07924414764480148498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-20300165024831617292009-11-09T07:10:51.790-08:002009-11-09T07:10:51.790-08:00Oh, dear. Dear Maggie May. This was moving and bea...Oh, dear. Dear Maggie May. This was moving and beautiful and difficult, just like what your boy is (going through). <br /><br />I'm so glad you have Mr. Curry by your side.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12321505516350090098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-23550640417677544952009-11-09T06:20:23.458-08:002009-11-09T06:20:23.458-08:00I wonder how my life will be when I have a 15 year...I wonder how my life will be when I have a 15 year old. I think my son and Dakota seem quite similar, with the emotional maturity and the deepness of their entire beings. I like when you write about him, I like that it gives me a glimpse into what I may be up against in the future.<br /><br />Also, there is a lot of brain research coming out now that shows that a child in their mid to late teens show the same brain activity levels as a 2 year old. The impulsiveness returns, the feelings of selfishness and the sense of recklessness and all that good stuff.<br /><br />Must be fun. Ick.Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11721629115039897949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-38010503649279583152009-11-09T06:18:09.803-08:002009-11-09T06:18:09.803-08:00I think about how my boy is so adept at pushing my...I think about how my boy is so adept at pushing my buttons at six...and quake a little inside thinking about the future.<br /><br />Sounds like both you and Mr. Curry are doing the best you can for Dakota. He'll understand that fully someday.justmakingourwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01410133602131763514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-67846122397740995672009-11-09T04:27:57.774-08:002009-11-09T04:27:57.774-08:00Ahhh, boys and their Moms- especially hard. It is ...Ahhh, boys and their Moms- especially hard. It is so painful even to watch- a friend of mine went through this and her beautiful, cheek kissing son turned into shoving away distress. They do come out the other side and it sounds like you handle it perfectly- with such consciousness!starrlifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10109817790942031827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-81015744893041889922009-11-09T04:05:04.209-08:002009-11-09T04:05:04.209-08:00I'm gonna save this post someplace safe so in ...I'm gonna save this post someplace safe so in a few years when I'm standing in my kitchen crying over my own 15 year old I can read it and feel comforted.michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09861251743062824891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-66981326967824056922009-11-08T21:55:24.652-08:002009-11-08T21:55:24.652-08:00*sigh*
i'm absolutely terrified of anything pa...*sigh*<br />i'm absolutely terrified of anything past this age i have now. this 21 months old and dependent on me. i feel like i fail at that sometimes and i cannot even fathom what it will feel like when she can tell me her judgment, all encased in puberty.<br />oh, maggie, my heart. <br />but i look at you because it sounds like you two are doing it right, you and the mr.kristahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07862447137460152226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-31157270983866768992009-11-08T20:59:06.215-08:002009-11-08T20:59:06.215-08:00that separation, that process of individuation, is...that separation, that process of individuation, is a tough one on both teen and parent (I've gone through two and am in the midst of a third go around with this).<br /><br />thanks for visiting my site, lovely to meet you ....<br /><br />peace,<br />JP/debJP/debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16588554280207421724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-1310545270035891472009-11-08T20:56:32.189-08:002009-11-08T20:56:32.189-08:00Oh, Lord. And I'm agonizing over the "eig...Oh, Lord. And I'm agonizing over the "eights." Honestly, who the hell knew this parenting thing would be so damn difficult? Everyone pulling you every which way --Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-51619796352771873462009-11-08T20:45:39.220-08:002009-11-08T20:45:39.220-08:00My highly intelligent, verbally expressive son is ...My highly intelligent, verbally expressive son is fifteen, too! Enough said, except to say, I know a bit of what you're going through. I am lucky, too, in that my husband is also an involved parent, and we try so hard to do it right, but we recognize our imperfections, in our son's eyes, as well as in our own. So, we tell him and show him we love him, all the time, and hope it all comes out right.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12588164536314320479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-50011081135302421652009-11-08T19:58:15.302-08:002009-11-08T19:58:15.302-08:00He knows he is loved, he does! He does! And this ...He knows he is loved, he does! He does! And this is the force that will keep him by your side, and you within his heart forever. You and Mr. Curry are a powerful team, a bond that can never break, ever.Simply Mel {Reverie}https://www.blogger.com/profile/15881462293605864150noreply@blogger.com