He is going to make some woman very happy one day and it was because he had such an amazing mother.
I was 19 when I had my first child too. Its certainly weird to grow up while raising another human being, you are an inspiration. I hope one day I can look back on these days with so much love like you show.
You are amazing! I love to hear of your life and all the trials that you have overcome......you are inspiring and Dakota is beautiful!. Have a wonderful day my friend. x
You are one hell of an inspiration as a writer and a mother :) I think one of the greatest birthday gifts a mother can give her child is a good name, and you did just that! Dakoda Wolf just sounds like the name a character from a best selling novel would have...
I'm sorry I haven't commented in the last month...I did read every entry but was lost for words as at such a time words seem so powerless...I am just relieved that you have started to feel better...
What a ride this is eh? He's a beautiful young man and he is also a lucky one to have a mom who pursued health and healing so vigorously. And hail to good, kind therapists!! Hugs and Happy Birthday all around. It is an attached male who has to fight so hard to individuate and if the mom can take the fight gently than he will be the better for it!
I was old when I had my first- 21- and not until he was nine did I find my therapist and she, like yours, saved more than one life and she was not afraid to wrap her arms around me and cry with me. Our children- they make us be the best of us we can. Dakota taught you with his breath, his body, his need. He taught you to grow, to care, to love. Isn't that the way it works? We teach them to tie their shoes. They teach us everything else. Mostly how to be a mother, which means, of course, who we are and how to live our lives. Maggie. You are beautiful and your children are beautiful.
The boy's got him some blue eyes there, Mama Maggie.
As you may have figured out by now, I had some similar issues in my childhood, but not nearly as much wisdom as you in addressing them. Fortunately, God gave me a father-in-law would take my two-year-old-with-non-stop-ear-infections and hold her while she screamed and rock her all night long and croon, "Oh, poor baby, you're so sick" until it was time for him to leave for work in the morning or the antibiotics finally did their job.
And that's just one of the ways I know God loves me.
any good parent knows that a 15 year old is supposed to think you're unfair and ridiculous. otherwise you aren't doing it right. i cannot even begin to imagine having a child at 19. i had my first at 36 and i'm still growing up.
Maggie May, you are a wonderful mommy! Can I come live at your house? What a beautiful tribute to your gorgeous son! He is going to make wonderful man, husband and father one day.
Happy Birthday Dakota! Its amazing what you were able to give him as a mother with what you had. He is so very lucky to have you. And he will realize that what you are doing now was all for the best.
I have been reading alot about "attachment parenting". Some of it I find a little extreme. But I have a co-sleeper ready to go and my wraps and slings ready to carry my little baby around with me. I am excited to share my life and my heart completely just as you did.
From another young mom, I remember how hard it was! Thank god children are resilient. I did the best I could, but I know sometimes that wasn't good enough.
Take time to look back and appreciate yourself for how hard you fought!
Oh Dakota, happy birthday! What a lucky boy born of such a beautiful woman. You do know of your beauty, right? I'm sure I must have said this before. If I stop saying it, it's not 'cause I don't think it. And I don't mean your physicality, although you are very pretty. You.are.beautiful. Him too.
The more I learn about you, Maggie, the more utterly impressed and wowed I am by you. I also started therapy at 19 - but wasn't a mother. My God, I could barely take care of myself...
Happy Birthday Dakota - you've got one special lady in your life, and clearly, she's got you!
I hope you know all these compliments are genuine; you are truly talented. I would love to know you in real life, but the world NEEDS to know you in written life.
your writing and stories are so beautifully told and gripping. i'm so glad you have a passion for attatchment parenting and are brave enough to do things differntly. sounds like you've been on an unimaginable journey. happy birthday to your very lucky and handsom son xx
You seem to me, proof that every one of us stands as an individual on this planet, thus, responsible for our own destiny... You are proof that no'one has to be dictated to by their past... Your family are truly sorted to have such a mum.. thanks for sharing :-)
I've got tears in my eyes, having just read the last two sentences of this post. You're such a good writer, and clearly a very smart woman. Your children are lucky that you are their mother.
What an incredible love letter this post is. Your wrestling to know him and understand him and to understand yourself is such a beautiful thing. What a beautiful boy you created with your body, your love, and your heart and what a wonderful mother he created in you with his unending cries, anger, and love. Love this, "e why Darth Vadar had so much pain in his heart. "
Happy birthday to your Dakota. Happy birthday to you as a mother.
Happy birthday Dakota. You are both so lucky to have each other. I can't imagine how hard it must be to mother at 19. I struggle at 29. Beautiful post; lovely mother.
I too went through years of childhood abuse; and consequently years of therapy in my early 20's, correcting the damage done so early on. I am exceptionally proud of you, not just for overcoming it, for you and your children, but also for talking about it. Few do. And I agree, the most important thing you can give your children is the knowledge they are loved. Not being loved, and knowing that, seeing that in the eyes of your parent, is the worst possible thing. At least, I believe.
Happy Birthday Dakota! My Dakoda Wolf will be 10 on July 4th!
ReplyDeleteYou sound like a damn good mother -- and I'm in awe of what you did at such a young age. Here's to a love of sons!
ReplyDeleteThe more I read of you the more I think you are such a strong, kick ass, talented woman, a fabulous mother and someone I wish I knew in real life.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to your beautiful boy.
absolutely beautiful.
ReplyDeleteHe is going to make some woman very happy one day and it was because he had such an amazing mother.
I was 19 when I had my first child too. Its certainly weird to grow up while raising another human being, you are an inspiration. I hope one day I can look back on these days with so much love like you show.
I avoided pressing into him the ugly stamp of abuse passed from one family notebook to the next---
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i love you too.
wonderful blog !!
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You are amazing! I love to hear of your life and all the trials that you have overcome......you are inspiring and Dakota is beautiful!.
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You are one hell of an inspiration as a writer and a mother :) I think one of the greatest birthday gifts a mother can give her child is a good name, and you did just that! Dakoda Wolf just sounds like the name a character from a best selling novel would have...
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry I haven't commented in the last month...I did read every entry but was lost for words as at such a time words seem so powerless...I am just relieved that you have started to feel better...
All my love,
Harlow xxxx
Lovely words! I hope you'll have a beautiful day and lots of fun with your son! I love the names you've given your children :D
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to Dakota!!!
I agree with all :)
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What a ride this is eh? He's a beautiful young man and he is also a lucky one to have a mom who pursued health and healing so vigorously. And hail to good, kind therapists!! Hugs and Happy Birthday all around. It is an attached male who has to fight so hard to individuate and if the mom can take the fight gently than he will be the better for it!
ReplyDeleteI was old when I had my first- 21- and not until he was nine did I find my therapist and she, like yours, saved more than one life and she was not afraid to wrap her arms around me and cry with me.
ReplyDeleteOur children- they make us be the best of us we can. Dakota taught you with his breath, his body, his need. He taught you to grow, to care, to love. Isn't that the way it works?
We teach them to tie their shoes. They teach us everything else.
Mostly how to be a mother, which means, of course, who we are and how to live our lives.
Maggie. You are beautiful and your children are beautiful.
Happy Birthday, kid. You've got a great mother.
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday Dakota Wolf!
ReplyDeleteA beautiful post, thanks for sharing with us. I think it sounds like you are a damn fine mother!
ReplyDeleteThe boy's got him some blue eyes there, Mama Maggie.
ReplyDeleteAs you may have figured out by now, I had some similar issues in my childhood, but not nearly as much wisdom as you in addressing them. Fortunately, God gave me a father-in-law would take my two-year-old-with-non-stop-ear-infections and hold her while she screamed and rock her all night long and croon, "Oh, poor baby, you're so sick" until it was time for him to leave for work in the morning or the antibiotics finally did their job.
And that's just one of the ways I know God loves me.
it amazes me how you are able to get to the core of life.
ReplyDeleteyou are a true writer. what a gift.
happy birthday, to your whole family.
Maggie,
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to your darling, boy. He is a handsome fella. And you, ma'am, are a beautiful writer. I am in awe.
Love,
SB
Has anyone ever told you that you are a fantastic mother? That you're strong, amazing, full-heart-giving? I hope so, because you are.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post.
ReplyDeleteLearning to love is so important. I had to as well for my kids.
Happy birthday to your son, and long live good therapists!
any good parent knows that a 15 year old is supposed to think you're unfair and ridiculous. otherwise you aren't doing it right.
ReplyDeletei cannot even begin to imagine having a child at 19. i had my first at 36 and i'm still growing up.
Wow, very peircing eyes...great job Maggie, you are an amazing mom.
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday Dakota!
ReplyDeleteMaggie May, you are a wonderful mommy! Can I come live at your house? What a beautiful tribute to your gorgeous son!
He is going to make wonderful man, husband and father one day.
Happy Birthday to him!!!
ReplyDeleteI love hearing stories form other young moms!!
That child is lucky to have you Maggie May. He is going to be fabulous!
ReplyDeleteHappy b-day Dakota!
ReplyDeleteAnother beautiful post. Just glad to be here reading it.
Happy Birthday Dakota! Its amazing what you were able to give him as a mother with what you had. He is so very lucky to have you. And he will realize that what you are doing now was all for the best.
ReplyDeleteI have been reading alot about "attachment parenting". Some of it I find a little extreme. But I have a co-sleeper ready to go and my wraps and slings ready to carry my little baby around with me. I am excited to share my life and my heart completely just as you did.
You are both lovely.
ReplyDeletehappy bday to your young man :)
ReplyDeleteFrom another young mom, I remember how hard it was! Thank god children are resilient. I did the best I could, but I know sometimes that wasn't good enough.
ReplyDeleteTake time to look back and appreciate yourself for how hard you fought!
Oh Dakota, happy birthday! What a lucky boy born of such a beautiful woman. You do know of your beauty, right? I'm sure I must have said this before. If I stop saying it, it's not 'cause I don't think it. And I don't mean your physicality, although you are very pretty. You.are.beautiful. Him too.
ReplyDeletebeautiful words. Hx
ReplyDeleteThe more I learn about you, Maggie, the more utterly impressed and wowed I am by you. I also started therapy at 19 - but wasn't a mother. My God, I could barely take care of myself...
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday Dakota - you've got one special lady in your life, and clearly, she's got you!
I hope you know all these compliments are genuine; you are truly talented. I would love to know you in real life, but the world NEEDS to know you in written life.
ReplyDeleteOh my god thank you so much everyone...your support and encouragement is amazing. Dakota really is a special young man.
ReplyDeleteI loved this post. :) You and your son are beautiful people.
ReplyDeleteGorgeous post - your honesty and love is rare.
ReplyDeleteYou have a beautiful family.
What a lovely ode - beautiful... what struggles you've lived through. Beautifully expressed, thanks for sharing :-)
ReplyDeleteyour writing and stories are so beautifully told and gripping. i'm so glad you have a passion for attatchment parenting and are brave enough to do things differntly. sounds like you've been on an unimaginable journey. happy birthday to your very lucky and handsom son xx
ReplyDeletehappy birthday beautiful boy. and beautiful mother.
ReplyDeleteYou seem to me, proof that every one of us stands as an individual on this planet, thus, responsible for our own destiny... You are proof that no'one has to be dictated to by their past... Your family are truly sorted to have such a mum.. thanks for sharing :-)
ReplyDeleteI've got tears in my eyes, having just read the last two sentences of this post. You're such a good writer, and clearly a very smart woman. Your children are lucky that you are their mother.
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You are one strong, smart mother, Maggie May! Happy Birthday, Dakota!
ReplyDeleteWhat an incredible love letter this post is. Your wrestling to know him and understand him and to understand yourself is such a beautiful thing.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful boy you created with your body, your love, and your heart and what a wonderful mother he created in you with his unending cries, anger, and love. Love this, "e why Darth Vadar had so much pain in his heart. "
Happy birthday to your Dakota. Happy birthday to you as a mother.
Happy birthday Dakota. You are both so lucky to have each other. I can't imagine how hard it must be to mother at 19. I struggle at 29. Beautiful post; lovely mother.
ReplyDeleteA lovely tribute, Maggie. Happy Birthday, Dakota.
ReplyDeleteI can't even put into words how much I love this post!!!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday, Dakota!
Amazing story. Happy birthday to Dakota, and congratulations to you on a very full fifteen years.
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely tribute.
ReplyDeleteRock on, Momma...
godDAMN woman you can write!
ReplyDeleteGreat write, again! And happy belated birthday Dakota Wolf!
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday Dakota!
ReplyDeleteI too went through years of childhood abuse; and consequently years of therapy in my early 20's, correcting the damage done so early on. I am exceptionally proud of you, not just for overcoming it, for you and your children, but also for talking about it. Few do. And I agree, the most important thing you can give your children is the knowledge they are loved. Not being loved, and knowing that, seeing that in the eyes of your parent, is the worst possible thing. At least, I believe.
*HUGS*