tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post5909985438393098637..comments2023-10-07T07:26:20.469-07:00Comments on Flux Capacitor: BreechedMaggie Mayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-80844158210773120152010-11-07T06:56:17.572-08:002010-11-07T06:56:17.572-08:00I'm with Serena (Zip and Tizzy) on this one. T...I'm with Serena (Zip and Tizzy) on this one. Two sensitive boys/young men handling things in their own way. I just read a great article, http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/ordinary-courage/201010/the-cruelty-crisis-bullying-isnt-school-problem-its-national-pastime, by Brene Brown who writes a lot on shame and vulnerability( she has a website too).<br /> I vote for the working it off- perhaps around the house or a retribution of his own choice?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-44099645817969813772010-11-05T20:44:24.239-07:002010-11-05T20:44:24.239-07:00Well, I learned something new at your blog today M...Well, I learned something new at your blog today Miss Maggie. I had never heard the term "version" for turning the baby, so I immediately looked up how the procedure is done. I had no idea that was even POSSIBLE. <br /><br />Whatever you decide to do, sending you and Ever great positive vibes.Collin Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03777180960376039699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-31628619911891342072010-11-05T20:12:32.248-07:002010-11-05T20:12:32.248-07:00Turn baby turn!!! Oh little Ever, flip it back ar...Turn baby turn!!! Oh little Ever, flip it back around honey and get ready to meet us. <br /><br />Could he do extra chores around the house to earn money until the hole is paid for? So hard, but I feel a lightness in this post and I'm so excited for you & your new baby.anymommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-77343221413855402102010-11-05T12:50:25.029-07:002010-11-05T12:50:25.029-07:00turn, baby, turn! Love the name Ever. Sweet. that ...turn, baby, turn! Love the name Ever. Sweet. that picture of you is soooo awesome. you look so radiant - the cliche about pregnant women looking radiantly beautiful is true, at least with you!essbeseehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05745117719761568320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-84049714878047021862010-11-05T11:47:46.513-07:002010-11-05T11:47:46.513-07:00Maggie, you look amazing!
I've found there is...Maggie, you look amazing!<br /><br />I've found there is often a lot of anger underneath the sweet sensitive ones. It's exhausting to keep up with the surrounding competition plus the pressures of seeming successful in a school environment that isn't intuitive to you. Breaks my heart, but I wouldn't question his nature, it does seem to go hand in hand, the frustration. Our society doesn't really know what to do with sensitive young men. As parents we've got to just love them and embrace alternative options as they arrive.<br /><br />(Clearly he's not the only sensitive and compassionate member of your family!!!)<br /><br />As for Miss Ever, T was breech. We tried moxi sticks, acupuncture, pelvic tilts, talking to him... nothing worked and I had him premature between 35-36 weeks, 3 days before his scheduled version. I was already planning to cancel it however, as after all the effort, I began to believe that maybe there was a reason he'd turned that I wasn't aware of. <br /><br />I had a v-back with Z and the truth is birth, is birth no matter how they come in. You either feel like you're splitting open and you get through it, or you literally are split open and you heal. Either one is work, but you have your lovely baby who you've carried for 9 months and who you'll be mother to for the rest of her life.<br /><br />xoZip n Tizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14760606219381683552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-49233793646583127552010-11-05T08:37:46.843-07:002010-11-05T08:37:46.843-07:00I am reminded of my own daughter as I read your po...I am reminded of my own daughter as I read your post. She was not breech, but sideways in my belly, never turning for departure, but always stretching on her own path. After a bout of premature labor followed by bedrest, my doctor and I agreed on a plan. He would try to turn her and if that failed, I would have a c-section. I'd had a wonderful natural birth with my son and I was determined to do the same with my daughter. I was worried about epidurals and stitches and pain and I wanted to be again part of the miraculous mother/child birth team. On the night before my appointment, I spoke to my mother on the phone. I told her I had come to the realization that however my daughter chose to arrive, I would be okay. Whatever happened would be fine as long as she was healthy and we were together. Ten minutes after I hung up the phone (kid you not) my water broke with the most gigantic explosive pop and I rushed to the hospital for an emergency c-section. I healed. My daughter is gorgeous. We are a team in so many other ways. I felt like she waited until I was ready; until I'd made peace with the idea that she might not arrive in the same way her brother chose. And when I was ready, she made her entrance. She's a firecracker and well worth the scar.Tanya Ward Goodmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00300248865463708695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-32304638818733452472010-11-05T08:00:11.712-07:002010-11-05T08:00:11.712-07:00Weighing in on the Dakota-job issue: a part-time j...Weighing in on the Dakota-job issue: a part-time job -- even just a few hours a week -- would be something that would be his alone, that he could own, and there is that thrill of a paycheck, no matter what the size. <br /><br />Might not be a bad idea. Worth a try.<br /><br />Beautiful mama!T. https://www.blogger.com/profile/16509409207991963533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-57293345881673319992010-11-05T07:49:21.921-07:002010-11-05T07:49:21.921-07:00Thanks for the update, Maggie. I am thinking of yo...Thanks for the update, Maggie. I am thinking of you.Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17116577711704241625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-76400907651847908202010-11-05T07:37:17.242-07:002010-11-05T07:37:17.242-07:00I would also suggest having Dakota patch the wall ...I would also suggest having Dakota patch the wall himself - I have a friend who has beautiful twin boys (who are now men). When they were sixteen one of them had a sad, fiery heart and punched holes, got arrested, vandalized stuff, etc. During one of his community service arrangements he had to work with the city parks cleaning up graffiti. Turns out he LOVED being outside, working for the parks, driving the equipment, landscaping, etc and it began his career with municipal landscaping. You never know. Dudes like to fix stuff and work with mudding and whatnot. <br /><br />PS - You are glowingly glowing and luscious in that photo!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-12691706349380268472010-11-05T05:30:24.507-07:002010-11-05T05:30:24.507-07:00my first went breech the week before she was born....my first went breech the week before she was born. our midwife had us burn some strange stuff--on my toes!! crazy-but she turned around. although it may have been from my non-stop pleading.<br />although cesareans are routine, THEY ARE A BIG DEAL. read as much as you can now so that you may intervene on some of the details if it goes that way.<br />safe & healthy is the truly important thing. wishing you well.jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05773101971483515213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-4580437106725411902010-11-04T22:57:34.388-07:002010-11-04T22:57:34.388-07:00Ever, listen to your mother - get that head down, ...Ever, listen to your mother - get that head down, babe!mosey (kim)https://www.blogger.com/profile/14990626697257089908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-37600098585424899702010-11-04T19:48:39.182-07:002010-11-04T19:48:39.182-07:00You look so radiant, girl! I think Ever's jus...You look so radiant, girl! I think Ever's just showing you that she's ready to join the ranks of unorthodoxy in your lovely family :) Or maybe she's practicing to be a practical jokester. She'll turn at the last minute and come out giggling. ;) Sending you all turning vibes...LoloSayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14496826332987001309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-6724695689692400872010-11-04T19:34:50.238-07:002010-11-04T19:34:50.238-07:00Sending you and Ever waves of healthy delivery wis...Sending you and Ever waves of healthy delivery wishes. I've heard it said that sometimes a talented chiropractor can help turn them...?<br /><br />RE: Dakota-- Growing up Italian, we would be grateful it was a wall or a door rather than a person. As to restitution, maybe he could "chore" it off, like around the house stuff.<br /><br />I hear you about the public schools. We are sending Harley to a Hippy school till we get a better grip on what options would be best for him. <br /><br />On a lighter note, that is a beautiful picture of you! And yay for ms Lola! Using her tools, and yay for you for showing her them.<br />Hang in there Maggie!Petit fleurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02626110471501778855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-67252392211953826782010-11-04T19:34:24.719-07:002010-11-04T19:34:24.719-07:00If you do find a way to finance the acu - it is am...If you do find a way to finance the acu - it is amazeballs. I felt Soleil doing round offs in there during treatments. <br /><br />TURN BABY TURN!!!!Theresehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08716002482059893398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-76612052164190669372010-11-04T19:16:59.357-07:002010-11-04T19:16:59.357-07:00Have you tried looking at spinningbabies.com? Oth...Have you tried looking at spinningbabies.com? Other suggestions: hypnobabies, moxibustion, playing music near your pelvic area, swimming, putting ice packs near her head, etc. I've heard of these things working for others. Sometimes babies need to be breech for one reason or another. I hope you're able to get her to turn.<br /><br />I had a c-section with my son and the recovery was not terrible. The emotional recovery has taken me a lot longer, but it was a completely unexpected and traumatic experience. So it's good that you're able to plan for it if that's what needs to happen.<br /><br />Turn, baby, turn! Thinking good thoughts for you...Lesliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06210056029582203814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-21667936915569112432010-11-04T18:48:48.396-07:002010-11-04T18:48:48.396-07:00Thanks for the update on your beautiful family! He...Thanks for the update on your beautiful family! Here's hoping that Ever takes it into her mind to take it easy on you. Stay strong!nfmgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677291537193518055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-43960127123579433562010-11-04T18:44:34.042-07:002010-11-04T18:44:34.042-07:00Hi Maggie,
My son was breech. The doctor chose no...Hi Maggie,<br /><br />My son was breech. The doctor chose not to try to turn him, but I did try, at her suggestion, lying at a downward slant on an ironing board propped up on one end, which I don't recommend! It didn't work, of course. He came one week before his scheduled C-section, two weeks before my due date, when my water broke, and the C-section itself went beautifully. I nursed, so I stopped any pain medication after the first couple of days, which I'd only used sparingly, and that went fine, too; it was only mild discomfort. So, if Ever insists on staying feet first, a C-section can go quite smoothly!<br /><br />I keep thinking about Dakota and his anger, and I'm so glad you're finding ways to help him work through it. I keep thinking, at least he is taking it out on things, and not people. I also feel for Ian. School and social interaction can be rough, especially for intelligent and sensitive people. And I'm happy for Lola, that she is feeling more comfortable and able to have fun, and looking forward to Ever.<br /><br />Turn, baby, turn! But, if she doesn't, all will be well.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12588164536314320479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-33912659546941897242010-11-04T18:40:09.228-07:002010-11-04T18:40:09.228-07:00Dearest Maggie, you are such a wonderful Mom. You...Dearest Maggie, you are such a wonderful Mom. Your love and concern for your children just shines off each page. I was born breech, or so my Mama tells me, and everything went just fine. I'll say a prayer for Ms. Ever to get herself turned around. I just know that all will be well with you both. I can't wait to see her. I feel like I know her from your blog posts. Your family is amazing. Love & Blessings...Marionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14786883679294446945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-6979144121307774452010-11-04T18:13:31.741-07:002010-11-04T18:13:31.741-07:00My heart always feels such a kindred likeness to L...My heart always feels such a kindred likeness to Lola. I was the same young girl, trying to be the peace keeper at a tender age and feeling the stress and anxiety caused by troubled and tumultuous and raging teenagers. I lived in fear of the fights, the rage, and yelling that came from my parents trying to reason with the troubled souls. I remember lying in bed at night, trembling, sleepless, listening to the arguments. I pray for her and so glad she is doing better this week. <br /><br />Fingers crossed for Ever! Ms. Moon is right... She'll come how ever she wants to...Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01281313538713462303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-68547138773547716322010-11-04T17:37:06.452-07:002010-11-04T17:37:06.452-07:00Ok, I have a story for you. My friend, Astrid, ho...Ok, I have a story for you. My friend, Astrid, home birthed all 4 of her children, her baby #3 was breech, which she (and her midwife) didn't realize until labor, when the baby was crowning. Needless to say, despite from four-letter words and surprise, the baby was born just fine. Not an ideal situation, but there was no need to transport the baby to the hospital afterwards, nothing, the baby was fine, and is now an amazing 9 year old beautiful girl.<br /><br />I vote for pelvic tilts, does your midwife/doc have a table/chair contraption (what's the name for those?) that do the trick? My midwife used to have one in her office.<br /><br />Here's prayers and well wishes for Ever to turn. :) Faith. Believe. Positive. You can do this, mama, breech or no breech, whatever it is, you can see it through.*https://www.blogger.com/profile/06484208765656281917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-28830340462176437872010-11-04T16:53:48.498-07:002010-11-04T16:53:48.498-07:00I am a couple years behind you on having a 16 year...I am a couple years behind you on having a 16 year old boy. I ma sure we will experience much of the same. I just asked my husband who is youngest of 4 boys if there was any hole punching and he said yes. You've had many good suggestions such as him repairing it.<br />Also good suggestions on the turning. One I also heard is to get in a swimming pool--handstands. i have a friend who tried everything and it turns out the baby prob needed to be breech. There are docs who will attend breech but not many as they are no longer trained that way. You have time--keeping my fingers crossed.Michele Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17030846420862437581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-56683889978677155212010-11-04T16:45:55.374-07:002010-11-04T16:45:55.374-07:00I am so impressed by you, you look way young to ha...I am so impressed by you, you look way young to have all these responsibilities. Good luck with the birth!Kristin Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13508574259676709949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-50030891757160370192010-11-04T16:18:19.167-07:002010-11-04T16:18:19.167-07:00My Ryan was breech towards the end of my pregnancy...My Ryan was breech towards the end of my pregnancy...I was upset about this in so many ways. Then amazingly he turned a few days before he was born...joy! My midwife and I didn't need to weigh the decision of a breech birth or C-section thankfully.<br /><br />My youngest daughter in her teen years was a handful needless to say. She got herself a part time job only on week days working at her orthodontist office. She worked there for over 2 years and it was the best thing for all of us. It gave her extra spend money and taught her how to safe money and be responsible....something my Love and I didn't have the ability to teach her for some reason. Either that or time played into her maturity. <br /><br />Thinking good thoughts your way on baby Ever and all your family..Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00912709342270151365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-41995335039722515502010-11-04T16:13:26.068-07:002010-11-04T16:13:26.068-07:00When my son punched a large hole in our rec room, ...When my son punched a large hole in our rec room, I found someone who knew how to fix it and then had them come by and lead my son through the repairs. This son also had drug issues but did grow up and out of them eventually. It was a long tough sad difficult emotional draining time period but we got there. Good luck. Re the breech baby...my third son was breech and I was told it would be a C Section and that the baby wouldn't come for at least ten days. Benj popped out the next day the way he was supposed to. Take a deep breath and what will be will be.Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00579046792411926175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-89761555718966709642010-11-04T15:25:14.470-07:002010-11-04T15:25:14.470-07:00So much to deal with, and yet you are RADIANT in t...So much to deal with, and yet you are RADIANT in that photo. Much love to you and yours.Shanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09332633230214817022noreply@blogger.com