tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post8249164590993163251..comments2023-10-07T07:26:20.469-07:00Comments on Flux Capacitor: Anxiety and MotherhoodMaggie Mayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-45321369298596126192009-01-31T07:25:00.000-08:002009-01-31T07:25:00.000-08:00Dread from intrusive thoughts surge inside me with...Dread from intrusive thoughts surge inside me with fear too....and I have to check on my kids. <BR/>Keep writing about it.....:) it does helpawarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-12522299990038852762009-01-31T05:21:00.000-08:002009-01-31T05:21:00.000-08:00You know how sometimes you look in a mirror and it...You know how sometimes you look in a mirror and it startles you because you think who the hell is this person that I know, why would I be shocked to see <I>myself</I>?<BR/><BR/>This post was kind of like that for me. Scary/beautiful, and very similar right down to some of the symptoms.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I slip into my daughter's room and put my ear close to her face so I can hear her breathe.<BR/><BR/>Wow. just, wow. Came here from mouthy irish woman. She's got good instincts, she does. :)Irish Gumbohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07386134334156997186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-33539880033624466362009-01-30T21:45:00.000-08:002009-01-30T21:45:00.000-08:00Ms Irish sent me here...and I love Vashti's commen...Ms Irish sent me here...and I love Vashti's comment, that it's taking away from the life you're meant to be living. I know it's cliched but like JFK (?) or someone like that said, we have nothing to fear but fear itself...and it is true, it eats...<BR/><BR/>Pray.♥ Brajahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693196044262677095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-26571910220960322102009-01-28T20:58:00.000-08:002009-01-28T20:58:00.000-08:00Ummm, I love that your little girl's name is Lola....Ummm, I love that your little girl's name is Lola. So cute.You Are My Favehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16741231287531873125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-57268499781723737832009-01-27T19:59:00.000-08:002009-01-27T19:59:00.000-08:00really sweet post, maggiemay, my mind can take ove...really sweet post, maggiemay, my mind can take over my body at a minutes notice...but i'm always working on it, probably telling myself: this is temporary and not always real. it's a strange thing, isn't it?mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05245587915511203917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-59172020189378749682009-01-27T16:26:00.000-08:002009-01-27T16:26:00.000-08:00Sending my support as well, although it looks like...Sending my support as well, although it looks like you have a lots of shoulders and friends here. :)Collin Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03777180960376039699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-85381488713464765302009-01-27T14:36:00.000-08:002009-01-27T14:36:00.000-08:00Hi Maggie, I just read your post and everybody's c...Hi Maggie, I just read your post and everybody's comments. I used to "overidentify" with everyone else's pain, and I had to keep saying to myself, "It's not happening to you." It helped me, to deal with the reality of what I could control, and not what I could not (if that makes any sense). It's good how you dealt with things, in terms of your daughter, so she wouldn't have to worry about your fears.Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12588164536314320479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-43918128885187299952009-01-27T13:20:00.000-08:002009-01-27T13:20:00.000-08:00Beautifully said. I've felt fear and panic before,...Beautifully said. I've felt fear and panic before, but never so all consuming as imagining that my sleeping, breathing baby isn't sleeping and breathing.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12321505516350090098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-39564280766298693042009-01-27T12:21:00.000-08:002009-01-27T12:21:00.000-08:00love to you all. thank you for your empathies and...love to you all. thank you for your empathies and suggestions! i do feel much better. the excercise, as Lola said, is key for me too. and avoiding too much coffee :) which is SO hard!<BR/><BR/>thanks for the prayer (vashti:) and the support. let's stick together in this world. it's much less scary when you're armed with companions who get it!Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-24740815807134383182009-01-27T11:18:00.000-08:002009-01-27T11:18:00.000-08:00I'm the same way, but it's mostly from my job. He...I'm the same way, but it's mostly from my job. Hearing all of the horrible things that can and do happen to people makes for a very anxious mommy. <BR/><BR/>I've found that coffee makes me so much worse, so I avoid it unless it's absolutely necessary.<BR/><BR/>The only thing that works for me is exercise and just talking myself down. I hope you feel better!Lolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07370267947354641941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-27145717699332356912009-01-27T07:53:00.000-08:002009-01-27T07:53:00.000-08:00we must be on the same wavelength. i woke up in a...we must be on the same wavelength. i woke up in a breath taking, heart racing panic, and had to do a couple walkthroughs to check that everyone was breathing and safe.<BR/><BR/>i felt so much with this post.<BR/><BR/>onward warrior woman. onward.a mouthy irish woman? ridiculous!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10559289518691894880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-32539690576734604912009-01-27T07:37:00.000-08:002009-01-27T07:37:00.000-08:00I am not a mom but my sister tells me that everyti...I am not a mom but my sister tells me that everytime she gets ridden with anxiety she thinks about Eckhart Tolle's teaching and just being present. I don't know if you participated when Oprah did that course with him but I highly recommend this book. I love that you wrote this, so real and human, just like all of us!Maria Killamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12728225086725817125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-89136297412690090582009-01-27T07:34:00.000-08:002009-01-27T07:34:00.000-08:00I'm not being facetious here when I say this: You...I'm not being facetious here when I say this: You mean, I'm not the only one who kept checking to make sure my child hadn't died in her sleep? Really, I don't think I've ever heard anyone talk about this.ButtonHolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612426765349119382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-66906831733798898832009-01-27T06:55:00.000-08:002009-01-27T06:55:00.000-08:00It's really hard to love someone so much and not b...It's really hard to love someone so much and not be afraid of losing them. Does a mother ever "get over" that? I doubt it. I haven't yet and my kids are grown. <BR/>But you break whatever chain holds your past. Sounds like you are a great Mom!<BR/>Thanks for visiting my blog!shabby girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03991126161405336712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-64809550441669581682009-01-27T03:57:00.000-08:002009-01-27T03:57:00.000-08:00When my daughter was 10 or so, I once called the c...When my daughter was 10 or so, I once called the cops because my sister (my SISTER, mind you) had kept her out long past when I expected her to return. Another time I waited curled up in the fetal position for her to return from a Girl Scout hayride.<BR/><BR/>The good news is, at least for me, this all got much better as we both got older. Now she's a mom herself, and the only time I really get freaked out is when I see stories on TV about hate groups targeting gays. The thought of what Matthew Shepherd's mom went through is enough to make me catatonic. So then I call her, and she reassures me she and her partner take good care of themselves and their kids. And the black monster retreats back into his cave for awhile.Jeanne Estridgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13096521122802823385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-86620842168701256442009-01-27T02:33:00.000-08:002009-01-27T02:33:00.000-08:00i had the same fear in my childhood.i have anxiety...i had the same fear in my childhood.<BR/>i have anxiety now and then.<BR/><BR/>i send you love and strength!!!!<BR/>as always.<BR/>much love<BR/>yolanda lolaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-79172190206440180622009-01-26T22:58:00.000-08:002009-01-26T22:58:00.000-08:00Cognitive dissociation is my poison. Along with co...Cognitive dissociation is my poison. Along with congenital hip displacement. So I can bury my issues but I can't run from them. HA! I should really use that. Thanks for inspiring my crazy with yours. <BR/><BR/>Laughing at it is better than screaming because of it.Captain Dumbasshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02214826608461609241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-79678122632710162832009-01-26T20:56:00.000-08:002009-01-26T20:56:00.000-08:00you know after reading this post I prayed. Fear is...you know after reading this post I prayed. Fear is something that takes away from the life that you are supossed to be living. as a mom I know how fear can become overwhelming, and from reading you blog i know how much you adore your babies. DO what ever you need to do to push awaay the fear, tell it that it has no place in your life.<BR/>Much love.<BR/>vxVashtihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13414526295669048539noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-86884562459790555412009-01-26T20:43:00.000-08:002009-01-26T20:43:00.000-08:00You know I'm right there with you, a valium hidden...You know I'm right there with you, a valium hidden deep in the bottom of my purse along with a tampon, chapstick, a few quarters and a packet of drying wet wipes, JUST IN CASE. Never a girl scout, but always prepared.<BR/><BR/>Breathe in, breathe out, hugs to you :)Petunia Facehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10862319327443285277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-58597609491739933662009-01-26T18:32:00.000-08:002009-01-26T18:32:00.000-08:00Maggie- I am walking down that same path. My anxie...Maggie- I am walking down that same path. My anxieties are crippling, despite being on medication. My children are grown but I worry constantly about them and about everything else.<BR/>This is a dark place. Let's keep looking toward the light.Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-34680639130660682172009-01-26T17:54:00.000-08:002009-01-26T17:54:00.000-08:00you guys are great. thanks for your words of empa...you guys are great. thanks for your words of empathy.Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14699674732274478502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-39113168441798366952009-01-26T17:26:00.000-08:002009-01-26T17:26:00.000-08:00I've had those moments where I almost have to dare...I've had those moments where I almost have to dare myself to go peek at my child that's been sleeping contently for far too long. Nothing is as scary as that walk down the hall to their bedroom. It's unlike any feeling I've ever known.steenky beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07570171606663745423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-32489773199201546982009-01-26T16:55:00.000-08:002009-01-26T16:55:00.000-08:00A huge challenge for any mother and you have more ...A huge challenge for any mother and you have more fear, just from history, than some of us do. I hope the exercise and the hugs and the tea were calm and healing and you and your beautiful daughter slept well.anymommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17870033179328734404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-26164548830813034292009-01-26T16:02:00.000-08:002009-01-26T16:02:00.000-08:00wow. I have always linked all of my stomach proble...wow. <BR/><BR/>I have always linked all of my stomach problems with fear since a very young age. I totally get this post. I loved this post. Keep that chin up.The Panic Roomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03636827979931172745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-972647577919000054.post-2173183050199515382009-01-26T15:06:00.000-08:002009-01-26T15:06:00.000-08:00Oh man, I have had those times when I shake my bab...Oh man, I have had those times when I shake my babies and just know they are gone, only to frighten the daylights out of them. If they sleep really good through the night, I walk slowly to their room calling their name to hopefully rouse them before I get there. Sometimes my fear is insane. I can imagien it is much more real when you've been abused, and I'm sorry about that.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15597925852098303084noreply@blogger.com