Wednesday, May 13, 2009

11 Weeks

Due Date: December 2, 2009

Ultrasound Experience: The midwife rolled the vaginal ultrasound wand this way and that, which was much less unpleasant than it sounds, greased and smooth, not bad for a clinical vaginal poking, and there was our baby; the midwife exclaimed ' Oh! Mongo Baby! ' and so, the clunky nickname was born. Apparently she is used to seeing babies not so far along as mine, but she scared me there for a second. Peanut ( as I much prefer to call him/her ) is One baby, and beautiful, we saw the little hands, feet tucked, round head, booty- heartbeat. Mr. Curry held my hand, we rejoiced.

Kaiser Maternity Care: Blamzooey, steamroll, too much information too fast many appointments, you get a different doctor every time you go, no they can't tell you who will deliver the baby, sorry, and make a TB appointment, and oh blood draw in a different building, and the midwife walks in and doesn't look at me when she says hello, but directs her rather frantic attentions and long nail clickings to the face of the keyboard, entering my data without seeing my face.

State of Mom: My thyroid is a concern so I have to see a ' high risk pregnancy specialist '. Thyroid has been swinging wildly back and forth the last year, I've always been hypothyroid but it's stayed stable with the medication, it could hurt the baby, this scares me, I see the specialist in 6 weeks after the med. change settles in my body and we access where I'm at with it.

Sex of Baby: To be found out July 17, if I remember. I think this is the same day Harry Potter comes out. AWESOME. This will be an epic day for our family- all the kids are going to this appointment, plus Grandma. We are rabid Potter fans, and the high of finding out the sex will roll right into the movie theatre with the troop.

Answers To My Concerns: None. I'm going to assault the specialist. Someone needs to talk to me about the scar tissue I have from endometriosis and 3 surgeries, how difficult this makes pushing Peanut out. ( Mr. Curry can try all he wants, but I'm not calling the baby Mongo ) For the first time ever, I plan on using pain managment, to deal with the incredible back pain I experience due to the adhesions from endometriosis/surgeries. I'm afraid of using the epi, but more afraid not to. However, with the epi and the scar tissue comes the risk of being 'forced' into a cesearean, an option I'm not interested in just to speed things along when other options are available. I need to talk to them about this, but don't have one doctor to talk to. I am interested in stretching therapies, yoga, hypnotherapy and acupuncture. With Lola the midwife used massage and tea but it didn't help enough.

Dakota Wolf is on his school wrestling team now, and we went to his first match last Saturday. He was awesome. I think it's cool because John Irving ( a favorite author of mine ) writes so much about his wrestling experiences and frequently includes it in his novels. I have a good impression of it's effects on a kid. He is also and still doing MMA. He is busy, this is good. He is beautiful and bright and incredibly emotionally acute and intelligent. He has a maturity, depth and wit that blows away every adult he meets.

Lola Moon is in Brownies. First Grade so far has been progressively better and better, with the exception of the incredibly bitchy and mean girls in her classes. Not that she is picked on, thank God she's not (yet, could happen, yes) but the things these girls say ( her friend Ashley came over for a playdate last weekend and called another girl a 'slut' when she didn't know I was listening. They are SIX. Lola, Daddy and I had a talk that night, yes, in which Lola said that every time she remembered Ashley saying that she ' got a stomachache, Mommy' ) and the way they treat each other is depressing. Boys aren't like this. They get pissed off and fight and call names and it's over or it's not, but they don't insinuate and snarl and bring you in and leave you out the next day and manipulate and wear shirts that say ' FLIRT '. I am talking to Lola a lot about why people act mean or cruel, she is picking it up slowly. She says ' I think Anna is lonely for her Daddy, he's never home and she misses him and she's been acting really mean lately. ' Connections made, good.

Ian Oliver welcomed a new baby brother into his other family. His mom had a little boy, William, with her husband, and so Ian will have two siblings born within a year of each other. Ian is getting straight A's in school, writes like a little poet at times, does math that no one in my family can do, and reads constantly. He is 12, so he is very, very, very sarcastic. He is 12, so he is very innocent still, despite his attempts at adult dismissals.
Ms. Moon said...

Nice report and catch-up. I am sorry that your baby can't be born all cozy in your bed but sometimes that just isn't to be. Your family sounds as if they are doing very well and I am very glad for that.

Evangeline said...

Rabid Potter fans? Alright! Now, I like you even more...if that's possible. :)

Such an exciting time for your family! Thanks for the update.

Jason, as himself said...

It's all such an experience! Julye 17th? I'll be waiting with excitement!

Sara Kempff said...

you've chosen beautiful names for your children... do you have any in mind for your peanut?

Sandi said...

Thank you for this long awaited update! Congrats again and again!

Laura said...

Nice to have the update... I am so happy everything is going well with the baby! I can't wait to find out what you are having:)

herecomesthesun said...

Wow i am really excited for you! Enjoyed reading the update, hope everything goes well and smoothly for you and you have the smoothest and most enjoyable pregnancy in the world!

Captain Dumbass said...

Mongo? It could work.

Steph(anie) said...

I'm a couple hours up the road from you, but Kaiser sounds pretty different in the big city. I love my midwife, although I did end up having a c-section. I'm sorry you're getting bounced around like that. Go Mongo Peanut!

Vashti said...

Yeah lots of news!! I love how you talk about your kids, I just feel the love and passion that you have for them coming through in your words, they are 4 very blessed children.
Tell Lola she is a star and I cant wait for her letters. I will pick a little girl her age for her and I will send you a photo of her. Can you send me an email address that I can send the photo to?
Lots of love to you.x

Unknown said...

Come on, if it's a boy you have to name him Harry!!! You know just cause :) For a girl Hermione! (Which I actually like that name a lot.)

I also have hypothyroid and was pg and on meds for five years before he was born and during my pregnancy. I didn't know anything about it effecting the babe (he's fine) but I did get lost of ultrasounds that way just to be sure he was fine which was really cool. My doc was a high risk specialist which was luck of the draw but cool anyway.

Good luck with everything. I can't wait to see you as you progress through the stages. (You'll have to post pics!)

DKC said...

So nice to hear how everyone is doing! My brother and his wife also had the Kaiser experience and hated it.

Best of luck with the specialist. And woo-to-the-HOO for a banner day on the 17th! Gender and Harry Potter? Nothing could be better!

rachel... said...

Great news! And good that you are far enough along that you should be feeling better soon! Can't wait to find out baby's gender in July!

Badass Geek said...

I agree with you. Peanut is a much better nickname.

Beth said...

What a thrill those ultrasounds can be!
Not so thrilling - the maternity care at Kaiser. Way too much running around re: appointments and answers for a pregnant woman.
Epis are good...

(Hey, the word verification is "restork." How fitting!)

Chaos and love said...

Dude. THat was sooooo Mongo!!!

Ok, sorry. But, it did come to mind.

Thank you for the love you bring to our world Maggie.

Did you happen to get a book in the mail?
Peace

CashmereLibrarian said...

LOVE hearing about your children--including Mongo. So amazing.

Definitely drugs. I did the first two natural--dumb. Next one--oh, wait, I'm done! Well.

I'm so excited for you and your family!

erin said...

HARRY POTTER! I totally forgot that will be coming out this year! HOORAY!

Oh and all that pregnancy and family stuff is nice too!


P.S. Name the baby Weasley!

Lola said...

That's a major update! Glad everyone is doing well, and Mongo isn't all that bad a name ;)

Annie said...

Hi Maggie, Reading your posts brings back lovely memories. Our first ultrasound was right before the amnio. It was amazing seeing our little boy kicking his feet, and I was so afraid for him, the idea of the needle going in, but it all turned out great! My husband saw our baby and he was instantly in love, not only with the idea of a baby, but with our child!

Anonymous said...

Ian has a lot going on, especially in the sibling category, but then so do you. I wish for everything to turn out perfectly. "We rejoiced," I hope there is a lot more of that.~Mary

Jenny Grace said...

If drugs will help, then feel no guilt.

Kate Moore said...

Lordy, how do you keep up with all of this. So much rambles through your head and onto here. I love reading it. Love.

Lemon said...

i love your descriptions of your kiddiess, so wonderful! (including little {Peanut}!

Unknown said...

All the appointments and planning is so exhausting, I don't miss it at all. And I really don't miss the ultrasound gel that my OB heated up way to much and I thought my skin had melted off. Ouch.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the report! It is good to hear you sound better! :)

anymommy said...

Sounds like everyone is doing beautifully. I'm so glad. I hope we'll get to see a picture of your beautiful pregnant self!

Let us know how things go with the specialist, okay?

Hey Harriet said...

That was a great update! Hope all continues to go well. Can't wait to find out the name you choose for your little peanut :)

Woman in a Window said...

Tell me these are their actual names. How rocking beautiful. Wished I'd have named my daughter Lola Moon instead of Fred.

(Harry Potter is the answer to all. I don't care of the question.)

Andrea Eames said...

Huge congratulations on your pregnancy!

And thank you so much - it has been a long process, and I'm so glad to have reached this particular milestone. As you said, onward!

Andrea xx

Anonymous said...

Oh what a great catch up, I bet you're excited for the baby!! So much to organise and do though, it seems!

J said...

ACK! Slut? In 1st grade? I wonder if maybe your daughter needs some new friends. I swear to you, NONE of my daughters friends used words like this at that age. Maybe now, they're 13, but wow.

Congrats on the peanut, and I'll be thinking of you and hoping all worries are for nothing and it's SMOOTH sailing.

Simplicity said...

Congratulations!! Will be watching for the Harry Potter...er...baby sex release date! ;) We are Potter fans in this household as well. Your posts are so wonderful to read! Your children are going to gain valuable life experiences through you and your husband being so open!

raining sheep said...

That is cool that you will find out sex of baby on Potter film day....I love Harry Potter. And by the way, John Irving is one of my all time fave writers. The other is Tom Robbins, I just loved reading Jitterbug Perfume.

michellewoo said...

Awww. So glad the baby has a booty. I am also anxiously awaiting your baby name choice(s). You are an amazing baby namer!

Anonymous said...

Hi Maggie,
Thanks so much for commenting! I'm finding that part of what I love about blogging is making connections and finding lovely blogs like yours out there.
I'm looking forward to Harry Potter as much as I Am Where the Wild Things Are :-)
Congratulations on your pregnancy - I hope all goes well for you!

PalagiGirl said...

You might have to name the baby after me. I was born on Dec 1st and my daddy has called me "peanut" my whole life. Ha ha!
I caught my daughter calling someone a "slut" the other day. As a joke! I about fell over I was so shocked. I don't even think she realized what an ugly word that is. When she got in trouble for it, both her and her friend looked at me like "What is the big deal?" It's a sad day when calling someone a slut is common place. I'm with Lola. It gives me a stomach ache.

Light and Writing said...

What a wonderful update! You sound very busy but in a very good way! So exciting!

this wheel's on fire said...

babies *peaceful sigh*

Anonymous said...

WOW! Maggie! What amazingly wonderful news!

zipbagofbones said...

Congratulations, and so happy you're feeling up to posting more again.

Valerie Loveland said...

Sounds like things are going great. Be careful if you don't like Mongo--that is one of those nicknames that will stick!

A Psych Mommy said...

Hi! Thanks for stopping by my blog--I see that we are neighbors as I live in San Diego, too. I also am a product of Kaiser Maternity. It definitely was overwhelming with the quickie drive-through appointments, but I do have to say that the minute I had complication with my pregnancy, I had awesome care! (I hope, of course, that you wouldn't have to experience the high risk docs) Anyhoo, I digress as I usually do with comments--congrats on your pregnancy and I look forward to getting to know you more through your blog!

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