Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Only Connect

Mr. Curry and I circa young, drunk and in the middle of the desert

A long time ago, in a galaxy far far away, two people had more mind blowing sex than is really compatible with normal life like working, parenting...eating.

First, they were friends.

And then, they began, as two single parents, to raise their boys together, as friends.

And then, years later, the sexy.

And then, they fell in love.

And then, they were married.

And now, they are having a baby.

They did everything completely backward, at the wrong times and often with a lot more bumbling around
than was good for anyone.

But they ended up making a life together with more depth- and yes, more struggle- and more beauty than either had really hoped for.

They love each other. Real love. This means even when the other person's facial expression makes them want to sock a kitten, they still love. So that when they are happy, they are even happier than that, because they moved through the unhappy times with such loyalty and perseverance. So that when the hard times come round again, and feelings are hurt or ignored or needs unmet, they balance this against all the rest of the times, and know that still, they are blessed. So that the passing of time becomes not only just 'life', but also a marker and a reminder every day that they have the stuff of life right there in their hands, the stuff that as CS Lewis says, sharpens the sword of the soul. Cutting right through the bullshit to the tremendous beauty of love, in it's best and it's worst times, with and without makeup, well rested or sleep deprived, angry or calm, bitter or accepting, adoring or frustrating, desired or repelled, in all it's forms and functions from brewing tea to midnight flings on the living room floor, from whispered sobbed secrets to shouts of glee-- to be in it together, a team, a family, from ' remember that awful July? ' to ' wasn't that November the best ever? '-- the simple duration of connecting, and reconnecting, even when it is exhausting, to keep reaching out again; one of the highest pursuits of human life.
Only, connect.


Plus, there is still the sexy.
Allison the Meep said...

Love is the most important thing we can gather as humans.

But the sexy is pretty great too.

Annie said...

Hi Maggie,
An excellent life, and philosophy: "... to keep reaching out again; one of the highest pursuits of human life..." I'm so glad you and Mr. Curry have had that connection, and reconnection, all of these years, plus the sexy.

Still Life With Coffee said...

Gosh I love how you write about your relationship with your husband. This is real love... the love that really counts. I needed to read this and remind myself about why I love my honey tonight. Thank you <3

Holly said...

gotta have the sexy! love that picture of you two, so sweet, so very young.

and is that a gun?!

Elizabeth said...

You guys are not too much -- just much. Very much.

Thank you for sharing a bit of your love for one another --

Maggie May said...

i think it's a 'toy' gun, but an expensive adult one, i forget the name of them. my boys used to be obsessed with them. they shoot little pellets. that was at the yearly Curry desert trip all those years ago, and none of them bring guns :)

yolanda said...

i love it, maggie!!

mosey said...

A modern-day fairy tale. With the sexy. Love it, and the reminder that even with the downs, you are still blessed.

Sarah K. said...

"even when the other person's facial expression makes them want to sock a kitten, they still love"


I have been reading your blog as a non-commenting voyeur for some time... and have come so very, very close to commenting in a thoughtful way- in a creative way- in a writer-to-writer way about just how very much your words are inspiring and awesome and even, sometimes breathtaking....
so perhaps it comes off as a little trite that I should finally choose to comment because of the line above--- but, honestly? it cracked me up and couldn't apply more to my life and my marriage right. this. very. minute.

well, i couldn't let this one go--- beautifully put and thank you. have to go sock a kiten and kiss my man gnight.

Terresa said...

Love the reminiscing, the pic, the backwards, forwards that is life, yours, mine, and many others.

PS: The sexy is always good, too, and just gets better.

Rianna said...

Waaaaaa I love this post!! This keeps me inspired on not settling for anything less than real love. xo

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Love the photo! The post is lovely, too.

Angella Lister said...

gorgeous.

Marion said...

Oh, the joy of those young, hot years when sex 3 or 4 times a day was the norm!! I took it for granted, I did...

You are so fortunate to have married your best friend. You and Mr. Curry are a beautiful couple. Blessings!

Ms. Moon said...

As the card I gave Mr. Moon on our anniversary says, "The best thing to hold on to is each other."
It's attributed to Audrey Hepburn and it's true.
As you know.

Wine and Words said...

Awwww. Backwards and bumbling is just fine. So sweet this.

Hannah Stephenson said...

That is amazing! I had no idea of your story--I think the surprising order of operations is sublimely romantic.

Petit fleur said...

Yay for the sexy!

You two are so cute in that picture I just want to eat you up!

xo
pf

Woman in a Window said...

Important lessons here for all of us, I think, sexy included.

xo
erin

justmakingourway said...

That picture is adorable.

Mwa said...

Ah yes. It's what will get you through the sleepless nights. As it will us. Thanks for the reminder.

krista said...

'the sexy'...
i'm totally stealing that.

Bethany said...

damn you guys are cute, AND sexy!
what an incredible story/life. Just wow!

Lora said...

I love your story. If you write it down, I'll buy it.
If you paint it, I'd hang it on my wall above my bed.

BethanySusan said...

this is amazing. you are amazing. thank you for reminding us to look through the everyday bs for the love.

Hermione said...

Beautiful, and so true...

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