Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Thursday C-Section and A Significant Passage

Lola's Thank You Card to our OBGYN, front

Yesterday's appointments and ultrasound revealed a decidedly breech and overdue Evercakes. So game on: C-Section this Thursday at 12:30. I can't believe how close I am to holding my baby, to seeing her face!!!! Mr. Curry took Monday off to come to the appointments with me and we had a wonderful day. Nothing and everything. Just being with him right now is the best thing for me, feeling his big hands on me, watching his face, hearing his voice- no better medicine and no better intoxicant. My mom will be here at 8am Thursday morning to take Dakota, Ian and Lola to breakfast, and then come to the hospital around noon. Mr. Curry's sister will be there, his parents, grandparents, my mom. I am hoping not to go into labor beforehand, because with an emergency C-Section I won't have my OBGYN doing the surgery. So here's to calm uterine muscles.

Oh and so not last, so not least!---
Last night I attended Dakota's last 'official' night at the program he started a few months ago. He graduated ... with flying colors. I got to listen to everyone attending say a few- or more- words about what they see in Dakota, and I could not have been more proud. I am sure if someone had photographed my face, beams of light would have been shooting out of my eyeballs. One man, the father of another boy in the program who works as a manager in business, said that he regularly sits at business meetings with men who have half of Dakota's intelligence, composure and self assurance. He said that whatever Dakota wants to do with his life, if he sets his mind to it, he can do. He said that Dakota has a kind leadership quality with his peers that is influential and his strongest trait, and he hopes Dakota uses it as a strong force in his life. The main person who has worked with Dakota, a woman I absolutely respect and adore, talked for a good ten minutes about how much she cares for Dakota, how everyone who meets him is struck with his genuineness and big heart, and all the qualities she loves about him. At the end of the nite, I told Dakota I was going to start my OWN support group, and have everyone sit around a table and talk about me!!! He laughed and said I'd probably insist that everyone stay longer, No, really, keep talking about mee!

Now he moves to attending a follow up support group once a week. Mr. Curry takes him tonite to his discharge meeting, and when they return home, I plan on having something special for him, a small gift, just a gesture to try to tell him, again, how proud I am of him, how much I love him, how important he is to us.

Damn it. My heart is too full. I feel it will break open.


..and inside
Maggie May said...

Lola's card is tucked in my baby bag to give to Dr Ghozi the day of my CSection. Every single time I pull it out to read it again, my eyes fill with tears. She is such a beautiful, beautiful person, my Lola.

Melanie's Randomness said...

Ohhh best wishes. I was a breach & a C-section delivery. I'll be thinkin about ya!! =)

jennifer said...

sending good thoughts your way, maggie. . .

Ms. Moon said...

Maggie- Your children are all beautiful, all amazing, because of the love you have never denied them.
And Ever will be the same. I can't wait to see pictures of you and Mr. Curry holding that blessed child.
Tell Dakota an old woman in Florida is mighty proud of him. Okay?

clearness said...

You should photo copy the card (in color at Kinkos) to keep for Lola's baby book....though she's NOT a baby anymore.

Congratulations on the scheduled c on Thursday!

Tay Talk said...

How exciting it all is! Good luck with having the baby!

Mo said...

Holy crap. That is making me cry, so I bet that will TOTALLY make your doctor cry.

*lights a candle for uterine serenity*

Sara said...

I was skating over here after a remarkably bad day and a terrible week, hoping to have some good Ever news. Lola's beautiful card, your pure devotion and love for Dakota: I'm crying. Good luck on Thursday! What a lucky bunch of kids, yours are, to have a mama like you.

Chaos and love said...

Our kids rock!!!!! Love it! Gonna be sending calm uterine {{{{vibes}}}} to you on Thursday. Ohh Maggie!!!!!!!! Ahhhhhhh!!!! Your baby, your baby is coming on Thursday!! I am soooo happy for you my friend. Little tear. Yay!!!!

Steph(anie) said...

You are right about your Lola.

Thursday!

Mel said...

Oooh, how exciting - the meeting Ever part, not the being overdue part. Wishing you all the best. Your post was beautiful start to finish. Got tears in my eyes over that card too. How wonderful to have all those people say those words for Dakota and you to hear. Yes, I'd like one of those too!
So glad you have a date on the calendar and an end to the waiting. We'll all be anxiously awaiting news. Hugs.

Allison the Meep said...

All of this is so so great! Good job on all the hard self-work, Dakota. And Lola's card is the most precious thing ever. The nipples on the baby she drew!! Ahhh!! Julian's been drawing nipples on monkeys lately and it absolutely kills me, and makes me laugh so hard.

And Ever!! Oh Emm Gee, EVER!!!!!

Superjules said...

That card is adorable. How sweet.

Josey said...

Wow - what an incredibly beautiful card from Lola.

Praying for you and baby Ever Elizabeth on Thursday!

ButtonHole said...

I hope everything goes like a dream for you, Maggie: quick, on-sked, easy, "oh-haha-it-was-nuthin"! I keep checking back to gauge the progress... As if you're going to be updating your blog from the delivery room.... haha!




(uh......you WILL BE, right???)

Catherine said...

Fabulous!

I hope the birth goes the very best, and the news about Dakota and Lola's card gave me the warm and fuzzies.

I'll be thinking of you on Thursday x

Corinne said...

That card is such sweetness..
And Dakota sounds like an incredible young man, what a gift - those words - for both of you.
So excited for you and the rest of the week!!! :)

C.M. Jackson said...

Maggie--Lola's cards are beautiful-you are blessed with a wonderful family-will be thinking of you on Thursday-c

michelle said...

Yeah. What Ms Moon said. But tell Dakota mine is from an old lady in New York.

C-sections... easy peasy.

Your amazing mothering shines right through Lola Moon's words.

xoxoxo

girlintheroom.com said...

Maggie, the way your family loves one another is a testament to you as a parent. Ever couldn't have picked a better family to be born into. She must be a very smart gal.

Maggie May said...

dang it you guys made me cry!!! i love you ladies.

Lo Lo said...

Omigosh! I feel like this is MY baby I am so excited, Maggie! Just proves your talent as a writer. You have me so hooked, I find myself rooting for Dakota and wiping tears out of my eyes for Lola and wanting to see that little Ever right alongside you. Best wishes on Thursday, girl! I will be holding you in my thoughts all day.
Much love,
LoLo

Annie said...

Hi Maggie,
This is all happy news, making me smile big with moist eyes. Your C-section will be fine, and lovely Ever will be rosy. Reading about Dakota gives me such a good feeling about him, and your love for your family shines. Thinking of you. I love Lola's card. Soon, Maggie, soon...

Zip n Tizzy said...

So beautiful... all of you!
To a smooth C-section and, YAY, your wonderful baby!

mosey said...

So so full of happiness for you, for Dakota, for that sweet girl of yours and that card! Oh, that card.
Blessings to you all.

Miss Malorie said...

There are no words adequate enough for how this post made me feel. Especially Lola's card.

After being on the phone with my mother earlier, contemplating the evil that seems to abound lately as effortlessly as air, seeing that card reminds me of the beauty that also exists in this world, quiet as it's kept, but boy, when it shines, it shines.

Thank you for sharing, as always. And yay for baby Ever! I've been following updates and I'm excited that she will be entering the world so soon! Sending warm wishes and calm vibes your way!

Tina said...

sending you much love! everything will go great on thursday! will be thinking about you all day!
xoxox

Simply Mel said...

YEAH Dakota! So proud of you and your BRILLIANT self!

And EVER, I cannot wait to see you in your mama's arms ~ another moment where proud beams of light will be bursting from her heart and eyeballs!

Elizabeth said...

What a joyous week this is, dear Maggie!

call me any name said...

safe journey for all of you

deb said...

cryin in my morning coffee, Maggie.

I can't believe how much I am waiting on Ever too~!

~Amber Elise~ said...

Maggie, My heart is full for you! It will be so good to hear that Momma and Ever have met at last! And Yay for Dakota! You are a wonderful mother.

controllingaspicyuniverse said...

Oh, my goodness that sounds like such a wonderful program. Life affirming and life saving and all. What a beautiful week to nestle around Ever's birth.

Angella Lister said...

Lola's card is so pure and beautiful. What a daughter you have! What wonderful children you have, and I know that has everything to do with how you mother. Little Ever is a lucky girl. I can't wait to meet her. Know that I will be sending blessings and love to help usher her in. So excited, Maggie! And please tell Dakota how proud we are of the way he did his program, and of who he is. Amazing lovely children, all. Hugs!

Magpie said...

Lots of luck tomorrow.

Marylinn Kelly said...

Please add an old lady from Pasadena to those with glad hearts for Dakota's success, his hard work. Will hold you, Ever, and all those in your corner in my thoughts Thursday. If the doctor doesn't cry at Lola's card, well, I just don't know. Very best wishes.

Evangeline said...

So exciting! We will be thinking of you on Thursday.

And Lola, what a beautiful heart! Wonderful.

Sarcastic Bastard said...

Lola's card is spectacular.

I will be sending good thoughts your way tomorrow.

Love you much, Maggie.

SB

Collin Kelley said...

Sending you love and light and vibes for quick C-section healing. Can't wait to see first photos of Ever. xx

Tanya Ward Goodman said...

I found that having my baby girl by emergency C was a little like a drive-thru, but instead of french fries, I got a baby. It's kind of surreal, but miraculous just the same. Am thinking of you.

Jennifer said...

Love Lola's card and Dakota's happiness. Will be thinking good thoughts for you tomorrow.

tiffany said...

Wonderful post, thanks so much for sharing this part of your life with all of us. A big high five to Dakota (and all of you) for making it through the program, and for making such an impact on the people around him already at such a young age. Sounds like he really gets it.
And wow, what a treasure Lola's card is!! My god, your family is beautiful!

Mwa said...

That card is amazing.

Good luck tomorrow!!!

Petit fleur said...

I'm crying... Good happy tears for you and Mr. Curry and your precious children.

And those messages from Lola. She is just unbelievable in every way!

Fantastic work mom et al~
xoxo pf

Dari said...

I cannot wait to see your beautiful Ever girl!!! Tomorrow, aahh!

What a great thing for Dakota, kids need as much positive reinforcement as they can get. How special is that?

Lola is precious. I do believe she will be an AMAZING big sister!

All This Trouble... said...

Aaaawwwwwwww! Hart beets! I love it!

Good Luck to you, Maggie!

krista said...

girl girl girl...
i have been here reading on my lunch break and thinking 'i'll comment later, when i get home' and then i get home and am tired. and i do family time and go to bed.
le sigh.

so...thinking such warm warm thoughts of you during your birth. and sending so much love to your family.
xoxoxo!!!

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